One common request from our Facebook page was for a post about Christian marriages and relationships. Since I’m only newly married myself and by no means a seasoned expert, I decided to ask three women in our congregation their perspectives on marriage.
A mom of four who’s been married for 17 years had this to say:
Our marriages are pictures of Christ and His Bride, and our marital relationship should be encouraging us, strengthening us, and making us more and more Christlike.
In my role as wife I should work to glorify God daily. Perhaps some examples would be by guarding my words, respecting my husband’s leadership in our home/family, and working on my spiritual life, sanctification. I need to be growing in the Lord to be a God glorifying wife.
The lists can seem impossible. And apart from Christ they are. We must keep the Gospel in front of us, remember that God is wise, and that Jesus wants to bless us.
Our pastor’s wife, also a mom of four and married for over 30 years, also chimed in:
After 32 years of marriage the Lord has taught me many things. If my relationship with Christ isn’t where it should be my relationship with my husband will struggle. I must be in the Word to have a Christ-centered marriage. God is glorified when we have a Christ centered marriage. My husband is my best friend and my sweetheart, which is such a blessing from the Lord. This gift from God just gets more precious as the years go by.
Another woman in our church who’s been married for seven years, mom to one and one on the way, added:
My husband and I have struggled for many years and have recently found what God intended for us to have in our marriage. It took seven years, but that just shows how patient God is with His people. We have learned that when God is not the center of our marriage, we struggle to love each other in the way that God intends. Our relationship with God gives us that unconditional love that we need to have and allows us to grow stronger in our faith and in our marriage. With God as our number one priority, we have found so much more joy in our marriage and have created a loving home for our children.
If you’re married, about to be married, or want to be married one day the resounding advice from these women is to emulate Christ in order to be the best wife or husband. But that’s not just their words, it’s also what the Bible says. An often-referenced passage on marriage was written by the Apostle Paul in Ephesians 5. As these women have encouraged us, read the Bible and meditate on what it says to best understand the Lord’s purposes for marriage.
Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit in everything to their husbands.
Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her, that he might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, so that he might present the church to himself in splendor, without spot or wrinkle or any such thing, that she might be holy and without blemish. In the same way husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself.For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ does the church, because we are members of his body.“Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.” This mystery is profound, and I am saying that it refers to Christ and the church. However, let each one of you love his wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.